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		<title>Saying &#8216;shibboleth&#8217;</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 31 Aug 2010 22:04:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Farrah Bostic</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I learned my Bible the old-fashioned way: by watching The West Wing.  It&#8217;s high piety and swelling democratic music was my Church of the Capra America. It was, I reckon, the best PR the Clinton Administration ever got, and it taught me a term to describe a trick I have long used.  &#8221;Saying Shibboleth&#8221; is [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I learned my Bible the old-fashioned way: by <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSXJzybEeJM">watching The West Wing</a>.  It&#8217;s high piety and swelling democratic music was my <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GD-lFCsYOPs">Church of the Capra America</a>. It was, I reckon, the best PR the Clinton Administration ever got, and it taught me a term to describe a trick I have long used.  &#8221;Saying <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shibboleth">Shibboleth</a>&#8221; is how I have entered rooms with CEOs and CIOs, housewives, soap opera writers, golfers, and NASCAR execs and curried their trust and favor.  It is often thought of as a kind of password, a signifier of your origin, a stamp of authenticity.  It is, at its most literal, a pronunciation used as what we would now refer to as a litmus test: pronounce it right, and gain entry to the kingdom; say it wrong, and be killed.</p>
<p>Like many people, I have instincts that tell me when I am among friends &#8211; body language, tone, facial expressions give me strong clues about whether I am welcome in a room or not.  Social cues &#8211; how my friends or family are behaving &#8211; also tell me whether I am in friendly waters.  These instincts and social cues are deeply rooted and closely held.</p>
<p>Even language plays a role &#8211; idioms are the hardest things for non-native speakers to absorb and employ, yet they are also significant indicators of origin.  I&#8217;ve worked with Brits for years, and have adopted some of their idioms &#8211; sometimes you&#8217;ll hear me say I&#8217;m at the end of my tether rather than rope, or that a project&#8217;s gone &#8216;tits up&#8217;, or I&#8217;ll confuse whether something is as dull as dishwater (US) or ditchwater (UK).  [As an aside, <a href="http://www.usingenglish.com/reference/idioms/country/british+english.html">check these out</a>, there are a lot of them that are also said in the US, at least in my part of the Northwest and among some of my friends here in NYC.]</p>
<p>There are also a lot I know and understand, but don&#8217;t say &#8211; you&#8217;ll never catch me describing a pregnant woman as &#8220;up the duff&#8221;, though lots of my friends do.  But I&#8217;ll say there are &#8220;loads&#8221; of something when most Americans will say &#8220;lots&#8221;, and sometimes, after several hours with my Brit pals, I&#8217;ll adopt the rhythm of British accents, all of them at once usually, and confuse the hell out of the next person I talk to.  Nevertheless, most people are quite well aware that I&#8217;m not English myself.  And while my American friends find my English accent hilarious after a few drinks, my friend Liam winces like I&#8217;m scratching at a chalkboard. I could not frame to pronounce it right, it turns out.</p>
<h3>Saying Shibboleth at ROFLcon</h3>
<p>I&#8217;ve been thinking a lot about saying Shibboleth since I &#8216;returned&#8217; to Internet Culture (I hadn&#8217;t realized I left, of course, but some people regard me as a neophyte &#8211; I&#8217;ve already <a href="http://www.prettylittlehead.com/freelancer-girl-nerd-woman-entrepreneur/">protested too much on this topic</a>, so won&#8217;t flog my bona fides again).  I attended <a href="http://roflcon.org/">ROFLcon</a> in Boston a few months ago and people were buzzing about someone&#8217;s mispronunciation of the word &#8216;<a href="http://www.npr.org/blogs/alltechconsidered/2010/08/30/129535048/what-s-in-a-meme-pardon-meme">meme</a>.&#8217;  That word and I are the same age, though I can safely say I did not spring from the head of <a href="http://richarddawkins.net/audio/35-memes">Richard Dawkins</a>; while people much younger than me scoffed at the mispronunciation &#8211; the faux pas of an obvious <a href="http://www.google.com/images?um=1&amp;hl=en&amp;client=safari&amp;rls=en&amp;biw=1146&amp;bih=668&amp;tbs=isch%3A1&amp;sa=1&amp;q=stfu+n00b&amp;aq=f&amp;aqi=&amp;aql=&amp;oq=&amp;gs_rfai=">n00b</a> &#8211; I think we can forgive the transgressor for mistaking the pronunciation of so new a word, and one he had probably only seen in text.  Later, a panelist seemed perplexed when a questioner referred to <a href="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=IRL">IRL</a>; the audience murmured their shock at his ignorance, and someone helpfully shouted the definition (&#8220;In Real Life&#8221;, a designation that is frankly, wildly out of date and out of step with how most of us live today).</p>
<p>What struck me at the time, and continues to simmer beneath the surface of so many conversations with and about the world of the Internet Nerds, is that these little hang-ups are cases of people failing to say Shibboleth.  They are not members of the tribe, and are held in some contempt for being outsiders.  People marveled at ROFLcon about how these people, who were clearly not &#8216;from the community&#8217; (as people so delicately phrased it) were successful enough at their meme-making to be a panelist at a meme conference. The &#8220;insiders&#8221; were at turns impressed, confused, and put off by these outsiders and their success at making memes even when they couldn&#8217;t pronounce &#8220;meme.&#8221; They don&#8217;t speak the language, people seemed to be saying, and yet they&#8217;re succeeding anyway.</p>
<p>As a relative oldster in the crowd, I was at the time amazed at how &#8216;new&#8217; everything was perceived to be.  Mainstream, commercial culture adopting internet memes was seen as a looming threat, as opposed to an ebbing and flowing one that has already washed over countless memetic sandcastles.  I was also surprised to discover that there was some sense of a homogenous &#8220;internet culture&#8221; &#8211; something that belonged to this group, and perhaps only this group. (In fairness, there were efforts at discussion of women and minorities within the culture, but these felt a bit forced to me.) The whole point, I always supposed (as the Internet Utopian I once was), was that the internet crossed cultures, combined cultures, even eluded traditional ideas of culture.</p>
<p>I can see that I was wrong. And not just at ROFLcon.</p>
<h3>Back to the gender &#8220;<a href="http://jezebel.com/5625287/what-do-where-are-the-women-shitstorms-achieve"><span style="color: #000000">shitstorm</span></a>&#8220;</h3>
<p>I&#8217;ve continued my background processing of the TechCrunch/WSJ/Change the Ratio spat from the weekend, and started to wonder whether an innate tribalism wasn&#8217;t the truer root of the gender divide in tech start-ups.</p>
<p>I noticed two &#8216;fact-based&#8217; arguments being made as a reason (or an excuse) for the lack of women-led start-ups.  Statistics about women studying engineering or computer sciences were raised consistently &#8211; and legitimately &#8211; in the comments of all these discussions; so too were flimsy arguments about evolution, biology and neurochemistry.  But scratch these arguments and you find two ideas that may be much more about the tribalism of the start-up &#8220;scene&#8221; and much less about gender specifically.</p>
<h3>ShibbolethFAIL #1: No CS or engineering degree</h3>
<p>The first argument about women&#8217;s presence in schools and programs teaching the underpinnings of technology speaks to this idea of saying Shibboleth.  I used to describe my dad, a product manager for tech firms ranging from InFocus to Intel to Sun (and a great many pre-dot-com start-ups in between), as someone who spoke English and C++.  The truth is, my dad was a philosophy major who loved technology. When it came to the innards of servers and circuit boards, he was an autodidact who learned mainly by trial and error.  He passed for a native because he learned the language, adopted the accent and &#8211; perhaps most importantly &#8211; understood the concepts (logic, most especially) that underpinned the technology.  You don&#8217;t need to have a CS degree to understand what technology is capable of doing, or imagining what it could do in the future, or to have a passion for it.  But these arguments suggest that without these bona fides, you&#8217;re an Ephraimite who&#8217;s about to lose your head.</p>
<p>Look, so far <a href="http://news.cnet.com/2008-1082-833090.html">women aren&#8217;t overwhelming the admissions offices of CalTech</a>, but so what? I have a degree in PoliSci and Journalism, and another in Law. But nothing excites me as much as what technology can do. Tech has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember, and it is ultimately where I turn for connection, communication, information, and inspiration.  I can name-drop Ruby on Rails, mention spending the day teaching myself WordPress hooks, and lecture my exes on the difference between memory and storage (in other words, I can be a real drag). I know a lot of women who are far more knowledgeable than I am; I know a lot of women who know less about the tech but have a million great ideas for how to use it and develop it and evolve it.  If getting in to the club requires a CS or engineering diploma, then I reckon a purging is in order. <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Arrington">Michael Arrington</a>, for one, has a degree in economics and another in law, but no CS or engineering credentials. Perhaps we start with stripping him of his all-access pass until he completes the curriculum.</p>
<h3>ShibbolethFAIL #2: Women are biologically and chemically different</h3>
<p>Women in tech, it seems to me, are quite simply the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Other">Constitutive Other</a>. They are not like the Same, so they are different, and need to be sorted into a category of some kind &#8211; safe/unsafe, certain/uncertain, integrated/segregated. While we are tribal creatures &#8211; this is why we build cities and cathedrals, why we go to war, get married, study in classrooms, pledge fraternities, live in neighborhoods, go to the movies, eat in restaurants, hang out in parks, go to meetups, follow each other on twitter &#8211; we build tribes of people who share something in common with us.  And we occupy many tribes &#8211; in fact, what some have regarded as a splintering of society may really just be a more fluid movement between multiple overlapping and/or disparate tribes.  The pluralism of our Internet Culture fosters these new ideas of tribal identity &#8211; interests, passions, beliefs, behaviors all can serve in place of nationalities or religions (or alongside them).</p>
<p>But to gain entry into these tribes, you must be the Same, not the Other. Women are, for a variety of reasons and as the result of many causes, not yet seen as the Same. An earlier, less educated time might have simply said that these matters were not a woman&#8217;s place, or that women were not smart enough or strong enough or whatever enough to do them; that these are important matters best left to the men, and not to worry our (ahem) pretty little heads about it.</p>
<p>Citing biology and neurochemistry and some pop-science understanding of evolutionary imperatives seems to me to be what smart, educated men (and some women, too) who know better rely upon to explain their perception of women&#8217;s Other-ness.</p>
<p>Perhaps, then, it&#8217;s not exactly men v. women.  Maybe it&#8217;s more Same v. Other.  The obvious solution would be to stop asking for passwords and start embracing ideas and action.  Focus on the merit of the idea as an initial matter more than the merit of the person.  Defining meritocracy that way might lead to more balanced outcomes.</p>
<h3>L&#8217;envoi</h3>
<blockquote><p>The habits of mind that our culture has instilled in us from infancy shape our orientation to the world and our emotional responses to the objects we encounter, and their consequences probably go far beyond what has been experimentally demonstrated so far; they may also have a marked impact on our beliefs, values and ideologies. We may not know as yet how to measure these consequences directly or how to assess their contribution to cultural or political misunderstandings. But as a first step toward understanding one another, we can do better than pretending we all think the same. (via <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/29/magazine/29language-t.html?emc=eta1">The New York Times)</a></p></blockquote>
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		<title>Why rhetoric should be taught in schools</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Aug 2010 06:11:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Farrah Bostic</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ah! A mini Battle of the Sexes! Fun! Let&#8217;s try to get the timeline from the weekend straight: The Wall Street Journal posts an article about the lack of women as start-up founders, etc. and notes the emergence and growth of organizations dedicated to discovering and backing female talent in the tech and social media [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Ah! A mini Battle of the Sexes! Fun!</p>
<p>Let&#8217;s try to get the timeline from the weekend straight:</p>
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<li>The Wall Street Journal posts an article about the lack of women as start-up founders, etc. and notes the emergence and growth of organizations dedicated to discovering and backing female talent in the tech and social media start-up scenes. (Do you know I spent about a minute trying to find ways to not say, &#8220;seeking out&#8221;, &#8220;nurturing&#8221; or &#8220;supporting&#8221; as they struck me as too <em>feminine</em>? Yipes.)</li>
<li>This Journal piece quotes Rachel Sklar saying it&#8217;d be nice if TechCrunch came from a worldview in which it could detect the gender imbalance at its conferences (also, &#8220;imbalance&#8221; is a very polite euphemism in most of these articles; we should be honest, the number of women being backed by VCs or invited to speak at conferences is absurdly small&#8230; and again I avoided words like &#8220;distressingly&#8221;, &#8220;appallingly&#8221; or &#8220;shockingly&#8221; because they sounded too <em>emotional</em> to me.)</li>
<li>Michael Arrington goes, as my dad would have said, apeshit. I would describe it a little differently &#8211; I&#8217;d say he threw a hissyfit.  He focused in on Rachel Sklar, who was clearly using TechCrunch as a &#8216;for-instance&#8217;, painted her with every &#8216;woman scorned&#8217; brush he could conjure, and then used someone else&#8217;s statements to imply something about women&#8217;s innate inferiority because he was too much of a sissy to simply say it. (Oh, and yes, I am aware that I am doing the same. It&#8217;s called &#8216;parody.&#8217;)</li>
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<p>I&#8217;ve followed the thread as far as I can &#8211; the comments are over 600 when last I looked &#8211; and yeah it&#8217;s mean and nasty and inaccurate and anecdotal and all that.  It is, after all, the comments.</p>
<p>But there are three things that stand out as &#8211; no, there isn&#8217;t another word for it &#8211; <em>dismaying</em> about the tone and tenor of the comments.  The first is the immediate leap to a discussion of biology and evolution &#8211; that female CEOs are not often on the cover of Fast Company because of neural pathways or biological imperatives.   The second is the assumption that there is something in the world of technology that makes it uniquely meritocratic, void of  -isms of any kind.  And the third is that people&#8217;s &#8216;personal experiences&#8217; make them qualified to speak about gender bias, neuro-biology, social structures, or their own ability to perceive &#8216;imbalances&#8217; in participation, recognition and reward between the sexes.</p>
<p>First, it&#8217;s not about brain function or hormones.  I have not done the research, but how many of the top CEOs of tech firms have some form of learning, attentive or cognitive disability?  Richard Branson, John Chambers, and Steve Jobs are dyslexic.  Ted Turner has bipolar disorder. David Neeleman spoke of ADHD as a major asset. Paul Orfalea has both dyslexia and ADHD. To use the easy retort from the comment thread, these are &#8216;outliers&#8217; &#8211; but they&#8217;re just the ones I could find in a brief google search, and are nevertheless highly successful outliers.  Even if some have been ousted, as Neeleman, they were still highly successful men with learning or emotional disabilities who manage to find incredible success as entrepreneurs. Being a woman, last I checked, was not a condition listed in the DSM-IV, and yet the commenters treat having two X chromosomes as akin to a learning disability when it comes to math, science and engineering.  Let&#8217;s not use &#8216;science&#8217; to camouflage prejudice; doing so has a very unhappy history.</p>
<p>Second, the notion that there is any industry, any business, any enterprise (words that all connote the exchange of goods and services for capital) that is entirely and purely meritocratic is, frankly, silly.  Where one is from, what schools one attended, how much support from family one has financially and otherwise, and how much skin one can put in the game are, at the very least, class indicators; they are also factors contributing to the success of a start-up.  Being the smartest guy in the room doesn&#8217;t make you the richest or best connected or most likely to get an angel; but being rich and well connected can compensate a great deal for not being that smart.</p>
<p>For one thing, VCs are interested in serial entrepreneurs &#8211; they want someone in the role of CEO who has both succeeded and failed.  Many years ago, Mike Jones was the CEO of a small web design company (disclosure: I worked for him as Creative Director, he fired me, we never reconciled).  That company was forced to liquidate as a consequence of a variety of (what I&#8217;ll simply call) bad decisions.  Today he is CEO of MySpace.  His failure was rewarded with greater successes.  He is not alone.  Most serial entrepreneurs have a failure under their belts.  This is not a bad thing &#8211; risk-taking requires that sometimes the risk will not pay off.  That&#8217;s what makes it a risk.</p>
<p>For another, Harvard and Stanford grads and drop-outs get more VC money than anyone else, and Harvard still edges out Stanford, according to a recent study.  Recipients of VC dollars are white, male, and affluent.  They are well-connected, mostly to others like them.  And there is also some evidence to suggest that men are more likely to become entrepreneurs or enter risky fields because they have the financial support of their families/parents.  Mike Jones&#8217; father owned a URL called &#8220;investing.com&#8221; &#8211; this was a location of immense value to a lot of people; his business partner Jason Bernstein was closely connected with the Milkens and other wealthy families in LA and elsewhere who were interested in what could be done with investing.com (according to a whois search, it now belongs to an LA law firm).  While there, I helped to pitch and win a contract with Ron Herman, owner of the Melrose location of Fred Segal; our entree came through our new business lead who had once tutored Ron&#8217;s children.  Nepotism got us a long way.  There&#8217;s a reason the cliche, &#8220;it&#8217;s not what you know, it&#8217;s who you know&#8221; is a cliche.</p>
<p>Finally, people are &#8211; and this is true of both genders &#8211; remarkably bad at identifying their own prejudices.  I know this from years working with and using market research; but I also know it from what scientists can tell us about socialized behavior and brain function.  Our ability to &#8216;reason&#8217; is shot through with all sorts of heuristics, shortcuts, and biases that are not rational at all, and are often wildly inaccurate.  We make generalizations, we construct narratives, we make decisions we are entirely unaware of, and we engage in patterns of behavior we did not consciously construct.  Speaking as a woman recently diagnosed and now treated for ADD, who helped to get her father diagnosed with ADHD, who has lived with and grown up with people who have ADD or ADHD, I &#8211; who can correctly identify a person with ADD within about a day of knowing them &#8211; was completely unable or unwilling to see the traits in my own behavior.  We just aren&#8217;t wired to see ourselves accurately.  So while your personal anecdotes provide color and big wide targets other commenters can fire at, they don&#8217;t meaningfully add to the discourse on the role of gender in guiding the make-up of tech or social media start-ups.</p>
<p>There is much more to say on this matter &#8211; and more interestingly and usefully lots to do about it &#8211; but as an initial matter, I found myself wrapped up, and then disgusted, by the nature, tone, and substance of the &#8216;debate&#8217; that is happening so far.  The one emotion I didn&#8217;t experience, however, was surprise.</p>
<p>(NOTE: I&#8217;ll be adding links in the morning. I&#8217;m tired. Sue me.)</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Aug 2010 20:30:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Farrah Bostic</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Remember how I said in the last post that I had two responses (see how I give you credit for being a true and Constant Reader)? The thing that troubled me about <a href="http://www.artandcopyfilm.com/">Art &amp; Copy</a> was the thing that troubled my own career in advertising, and so profoundly affected (though I did not fully realize it as it was happening) my own aspirations: women were noticeably absent.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.oneclub.org/oc/magazine/articles/?id=75">Phyllis Robinson</a> and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary_Wells_Lawrence">Mary Wells</a> both went to work at <a href="http://www.ddb.com">Doyle Dane Bernbach</a> back in the 1960s. Ms. Robinson was there from the start as Copy Chief, Mary Wells joined later, was successful, went elsewhere, was successful, etc. Wells made a wonderful and inspiring observation in the documentary &#8211; that advertising is theater, spectacle, meant to entertain and transform. Much of what she did went well beyond a headline and a nice photo &#8211; she transformed the businesses of her clients. They are both in the documentary.</p>
<p>But that is it &#8211; or almost. <a href="http://postcards.blogs.fortune.cnn.com/2009/01/07/nikes-former-marketing-boss-gets-back-in-the-game/">Liz Dolan</a>, the former head of marketing at Nike, is interviewed, mainly to talk about how smart and intimidating Dan Weiden is. She&#8217;s right of course, he is both of those things. But where were the women who worked on the account? Where was Janet Champ? (To his credit, Dan Weiden did give her credit for the &#8220;If you let me play sports&#8221; work. Not that doing so was a hardship; after all, it was true.)</p>
<p><a href="http://bad.eserver.org/issues/2008/nike1.jpg"><img class="alignnone" src="http://bad.eserver.org/issues/2008/nike1.jpg" alt="" width="432" height="280" /></a></p>
<p>I wracked my brain trying to think of who they could have included from my gender. I failed. Even now, I am hard-pressed to think of a single top creative director at a top creative agency who is a woman. This is homework I&#8217;ll have to assign myself, but I want to put a small amount of perspective on this as well.</p>
<p>I haven&#8217;t been a copywriter, actively, for many years, so I might be forgiven for losing touch with women in the field. Still in the agency world&#8217;s orbit, I&#8217;ve been a planner and working closely with planners this whole time. And while I can name a few heads of planning who are women, there are few I count as superstars. <a href="http://bbh-labs.com/author/benmal">Ben Malbon</a>, <a href="http://russelldavies.typepad.com/">Russell Davies</a>, <a href="http://garethkay.typepad.com/">Gareth Kay</a>, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjdxsIhbXNU">Robin Hafitz</a>, <a href="http://www.pic-nyc.com/">Domenico Vitale</a>, <a href="http://www.houseofnaked.com/author/paul/">Paul Woolmington</a>, <a href="http://anomaly.com/people.php">Dan Cherry</a>, <a href="http://www.baskinshark.com/">Merry Baskin</a>, are on that list. But consider that list for a moment &#8211; I listed 5 Brits, two women, and one African-American. It&#8217;s not that they aren&#8217;t out there, it&#8217;s that they struggle to be heard. And seen, for that matter.</p>
<p>There are two who get press and recognition from time to time: <a href="http://anomaly.com/people.php#">Natasha Jakubowski</a> at Anomaly, and Katie Harrison at BBH. Both are Brits.  There is a special irony here, of course, given that as the story goes, planning came to the US from the UK when <a href="http://www.adweek.com/aw/esearch/article_display.jsp?vnu_content_id=522328">Jane Newman</a> was hired by Chiat/Day. She later co-founded <a href="http://www.merkleyandpartners.com/home.html">Merkley Newman Harty</a>.  In her wake, a great many women have been hired and trained as planners, but fewer and fewer seem to rise to her stature.</p>
<p>[If you're wondering why I note the national origin of Brits, it's that things are a bit different, culturally, in the ad business in the UK versus the US. Of course Americans tend to think an English accent bestows 10 extra IQ points on the speaker, but it's more that account planning is more entrenched, more strategic, and more creative in the UK, generally, than it has been here. When a planner comes from the UK, they come to be senior.]</p>
<p>The other thing I&#8217;d note here is that, I am (ahem) 33 years old, and have been in this business more than 10 years. Russell and Robin and Merry and Paul have been names in this business for as long as I can remember. So who are the smart strategists from my age cohort? They don&#8217;t come from &#8216;traditional&#8217; planning &#8211; but then neither do I. To the list, I would have to add <a href="http://www.noahbrier.com">Noah Brier</a> and <a href="http://farisyakob.typepad.com/">Faris Yakob</a>, who are, I am happy to say, friends and colleagues. But they&#8217;re also dudes, and Faris is British. Actually, ask Faris about it sometime &#8211; Faris is everything, he&#8217;s the most fantastic mutt I&#8217;ve met in some time.</p>
<p>But, again, I ask, where all the ladies at?</p>
<p><strong>It&#8217;s not just advertising</strong></p>
<p>In fairness, this is not limited to the ad game. Watch the documentary <a href="http://www.helveticafilm.com/">Helvetica</a>; the only woman designer interviewed is <a href="http://www.pentagram.com/en/partners/paula-scher.php">Paula Scher</a>, who famously <a href="http://www.ted.com/talks/paula_scher_gets_serious.html">hates</a> that typeface, and equates it with war and corruption and corporatism. She&#8217;s inspiring and talented and wonderful, but she&#8217;s a boomer and the only woman to be interviewed in the whole 90 minutes. (Doug Pray outdid this flick three-fold, so good on &#8216;im.)  There are no young women designers on the rise?  There are no contemporaries to Scher? There are no generational equivalents to Wells and Robinson?  I just find that so hard to believe.</p>
<p>Or watch <a href="http://www.theseptemberissue.com/">The September Issue</a>. Oh sure, you think,<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rj-cutler/what-i-learned-from-anna_b_472236.html"> Anna Wintour</a> and <a href="http://www.vogue.com/voguedaily/2009/08/grace-coddington/">Grace Coddington</a> run that show and they&#8217;re women! True, but watch for the scene where Wintour meets with her advertisers &#8211; most of the non-Vogue players at that table were men. Watch for the designers and photographers &#8211; still mostly men. And my favorite, watch for the meeting in which she presents the issue to the Conde Nast board &#8211; I&#8217;d need to go back and freeze-frame to be sure, but I&#8217;m almost certain that they&#8217;re all men. So even Anna Wintour, famous as the boss/dragon lady or ice queen, has bosses &#8211; and they don&#8217;t worry about scuffing their Jimmy Choos or how to wear fur for spring.</p>
<p><strong>My point would be&#8230;?</strong></p>
<p>Look, there are lots of women in advertising. Something like 60% of agency staff is female. It&#8217;s just that the female staff is more junior, and in more administrative or project management oriented departments. They are critical to the running of an agency, but they do not craft the art &amp; copy, or guide the strategy of the business. Even lists of advertising &#8216;<a href="http://adage.com/womentowatch2010/">women to watch</a>&#8216; are very often clients, not creatives or planners or agency heads (and female CMOs ≠ female ECDs). With so many women in the business, why aren&#8217;t there more in the sexy, powerful, famous roles?</p>
<p>I have a few hypotheses I&#8217;m going to throw out here, and I&#8217;ll try to stay on track to think more about them and do more research on them&#8230;</p>
<li>The usual &#8216;mommy-track&#8217; argument (blah blah blah)</li>
<li>The <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2005/10/21/business/21adco.html">Neil French</a>, &#8220;women are shit&#8221; argument (see above)</li>
<li>The He-man Woman-hater&#8217;s Club argument</li>
<li>The <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Seducing-Boys-Club-Uncensored-Tactics/dp/0345496981">Unspoken Rules of the Boys Club/Glass Ceiling</a> argument</li>
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Oh, kidding. I think those are mostly crap!</p>
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<li>Women are socialized to be &#8216;practical&#8217; not &#8216;creative&#8217; so pursue education and employment within creative fields, but not within creative roles</li>
<li>Women are not trained to self-promote effectively; correlates to risk-aversion, something else women are taught</li>
<li>Women have not done enough to mutually promote, foster, mentor and hire other women</li>
<li>Women prefer collaborative and collegial work environments so drop out of competitive, high-profile shops to get a better quality of life and work elsewhere &#8211; sadly, under the radar</li>
<li>Women in creative roles are regarded as tradespeople not talents, so find it simpler to make more money in that capacity, rather than scraping to be famous for advertising</li>
<li>Women fail to show up &#8211; their networking styles tend toward the rational, provable, and face-to-face, rather than the emotional, hyperbolic and side-by-side&#8230; leaving them outside the very active and effective world of networking that men built and inhabit</li>
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<p>So I clearly  have some homework to do on these causes&#8230; But I guess my biggest question is less to society at large, or men as a group, but to each woman who writes little doo-dads, or draws on the back of everything, or takes amazing photos, or makes little videos, or teaches herself PHP&#8230; Where are you? We need you to show up. Being seen is the necessary precursor to being heard.</p>
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		<title>I loved you once: A belated review of &#8220;Art &amp; Copy&#8221;, Part 1</title>
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		<dc:creator>Farrah Bostic</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I finally got around to watching <a href="http://www.artandcopyfilm.com/">Art &amp; Copy</a> the other night, and had two responses.</p>
<p><strong>OMG, I &lt;3 THIS!!!</strong></p>
<p>I was flooded with remembrances of what I once loved about advertising, why I wanted to be a writer, why I admired the agencies and creative people I did.</p>
<p>I think I was only vaguely aware of the existence of ad agencies before my father introduced me to the idea of working in one.  He was sneaky about it; he came home one day and told me, &#8220;You should work in advertising. You&#8217;d love it. I was in the head of the agency&#8217;s office today, and a woman, I think she&#8217;s a writer there, came in, flopped over the back of his couch, and yelled, &#8220;Fuuuuuck!&#8221; How cool is that?&#8221;</p>
<p>My father knew me so very well.  So yes, I was intrigued.  He kept bringing things home &#8211; little posters people made and posted around the shop, examples of ads they were making or had made, stories about the brilliant or hilarious thing that the creative directors said, or about the guys playing HORSE in the half-basketball court, or how work broke down on Fridays as everyone ran for the roof with water-tight vessels of any kind in hand, ready for delicious beer.  Dad was installing their servers and network and he loved that place.</p>
<p><a href="http://creativedump.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/pin2.jpg"><img class="alignnone" src="http://creativedump.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/pin2.jpg" alt="" width="450" height="200" /></a></p>
<p><a href="http://creativedump.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/pin2.jpg"></a>The place?  <a href="http://www.wk.com">Weiden + Kennedy</a>, the agency behind &#8220;<a href="http://www.youtube.com/user/nike">Just do it</a>&#8221; and more recently, the <a href="http://www.youtube.com/user/OldSpice">Old Spice videos</a>.</p>
<p>So studying advertising seemed like a sure-fire way to find my way to a career of flopping onto couches yelling, &#8220;Fuuuuck!&#8221; And for the price of in-state tuition, no less.</p>
<p>When I took my first course in the ad sequence at <a href="http://jcomm.uoregon.edu/">University of Oregon&#8217;s School of Journalism and Communications</a>, in my junior year of college (oh my, you have to take all these classes and a Language Skills Diagnostic Test before they let you in! You have to write an essay! Mine said I wanted to be either <a href="http://jcomm.uoregon.edu/">James Carville</a> or <a href="http://www.schneiderism.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/491128717_ad9e12837f.jpg">Dan Weiden</a> &#8211; note the total absence of female heroes), I thought I would be an account person.  I have no idea what voice told me that was the right choice, or that I couldn&#8217;t be on the creative side, the side my dad celebrated so regularly.  I was running a student magazine, and writing and reporting every two weeks &#8211; why didn&#8217;t I think I was a writer, yet?</p>
<p>But I did take Introduction to Copywriting &#8211; it was required. Halfway through that 10 week class, I was sure I was drowning. I couldn&#8217;t figure out why some of my ideas worked and others didn&#8217;t; I simply could not come up with <strong>anything</strong> for Right Guard deodorant.  The instructor, <a href="http://jcomm.uoregon.edu/faculty-staff/amaxwell">Ann Maxwell</a> (that link is shamefully sparse, it doesn&#8217;t even begin to describe her), had mid-term check-ins with all the students.  I came into her office for the first time, sat down, and scanned the room.  She had cool stuff.  She had a nice window.  She had <a href="http://www.clioawards.com/">Clios</a>.</p>
<p>She told me she thought I was very talented and that she knew I said I wanted to go into account management, but that she thought I should do this instead.  I was shocked.  But, as I have been incredibly lucky to do a few times, I chose to just say, &#8220;okay.&#8221;  And at that moment, I became a copywriter.</p>
<p>I devoured anything I could find &#8211; <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Copy-Workshop-Workbook-2002/dp/1887229124/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&amp;s=books&amp;qid=1282329628&amp;sr=8-2">The Copy Workshop Workbook</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Ogilvy-Advertising-David/dp/039472903X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1282329660&amp;sr=1-1">Ogilvy on Advertising</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Book-Gossage-Howard-Luck-Goodby/dp/1887229280/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1282329682&amp;sr=1-1">The Book of Gossage</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Your-Together-Advertising-Newly-Revised/dp/0393732851/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1282329717&amp;sr=1-2">How to Put Your Book Together and Get a Job in Advertising</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Truth-Lies-Advertising-Account-Planning/dp/0471189626/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1282329755&amp;sr=1-1">Truth, Lies and Advertising</a>, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Those-Wonderful-Folks-Pearl-Harbor/dp/0671205714/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1282329784&amp;sr=1-3">From Those Wonderful Folks Who Brought You Pearl Harbor</a>, <a href="http://www.commarts.com">Communication Arts</a>, <a href="http://www.adage.com">Ad Age</a>, <a href="http://www.creativity-online.com">Creativity</a>, agency reels, stuff I saw in magazines and on television, anything.  I worshipped at the feet of the two great Creative Revolutions in American advertising &#8211; those giants: <a href="http://adage.com/century/people001.html">Bernbach</a>, <a href="http://www.clickz.com/clickz/column/1709488/the-first-interactive-ad-man">Gossage</a>, <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/26/business/worldbusiness/26iht-26riney.11424471.html">Riney</a>, <a href="http://www.independent.co.uk/news/media/advertising-dan-wieden--the-secret-of-my-success-is-failure-and-uncertainty-454500.html">Wieden</a>, <a href="http://video.forbes.com/fvn/cmo/advertising-in-a-digital-world">Goodby</a>, <a href="http://www.adweek.com/aw/esearch/article_display.jsp?vnu_content_id=1477273">Chiat</a>, <a href="http://www.fastcompany.com/100/2009/lee-clow">Clow</a>.  I leaned on <a href="http://www.usatoday.com/money/covers/2002-05-03-wells-lawrence.htm">Mary Wells Lawrence</a>&#8216;s agency&#8217;s approach for organizing my thoughts. I venerated <a href="http://www.champandmoore.com">Janet Champ</a>&#8216;s work on Nike&#8217;s PLAY campaign: &#8220;If you let me play sports.&#8221;</p>
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<p>When it came time to apply for jobs, I aimed high: <a href="http://www.goodbysilverstein.com/">Goodby Silverstein &amp; Partners</a>, <a href="http://www.tbwachiat.com">TBWA\Chiat\Day</a>, <a href="http://www.groundzero.net/">Ground Zero</a>, <a href="http://www.fallon.com">Fallon</a>, <a href="http://adholes.com/postings/68ab9929df789438b1761c03bc6683de">Mad Dogs &amp; Englishmen</a>, <a href="http://www.wongdoody.com/">WongDoody</a>, <a href="http://bssp.com/">Butler, Shine &amp; Stern</a>, <a href="http://mediadecoder.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/03/wheres-the-agency-freemans-shop-is-no-more/">Cliff Freeman &amp; Partners</a> (not all of them survived the agency consolidation movement or the Great Recession).  I had a positive response, people liked my portfolio, they loved my cover letter (oh my kingdom for that Word file!), they invited me in for interviews, they almost hired me several times.  But times were tough in the ad business, and junior creatives are always scraping for any job that gets them in the door.</p>
<p>I got this feedback once, from a young man in a creative department in a creative agency in Los Angeles: &#8220;Well, it&#8217;s obviously a woman&#8217;s book.  There are no women in our creative department.&#8221;  I&#8217;m pretty sure I ended the interview right there.</p>
<p>When I came back, two years later, after having worked as a copywriter (in the spirit of the times, I was actually the Creative Director) in a web shop, that same agency had finally got around to hiring a woman.  She told me that my portfolio showed that I could write, but not that I could think.  She recommended moving very far away and working for free.  She recommended, in other words, posing no further threat to her. She was now The Woman in the Creative Department.</p>
<p>I think that&#8217;s when I started wondering again whether I really was a writer, whether that was acceptable, or possible, or worth the rejection.  I was watching the level of creativity decline again, and it was depressing.  After some wonderful detours, I landed at Chiat, embraced by the account director on Apple, who told me that I belonged there, that he wouldn&#8217;t get in the way of my dream, and that I was hired.  But &#8211; oh, irony! &#8211; I was hired into the account team.  Somehow, with the help or seduction or something of a very charismatic planner (and a woman!) I morphed into an account planner &#8211; a field that is, at most levels, dominated by women in the US.  Theoretically, the planner is the creative&#8217;s muse and the voice of the consumer.  Sometimes, that&#8217;s true.  A lot of times, it&#8217;s just another kind of account management.</p>
<p>It was not lost on me that <a href="http://adage.com/talentworks/article?article_id=138709">only about 3% of creative directors in US agencies are female; neither was it lost on me that only about 18% of management jobs are held by women</a>.  It also was not lost on me that my new employer&#8217;s planning department was run by a man who&#8217;d never been a planner; that an account director once exclaimed in his English accent, &#8220;There are too many bloody women on this account!&#8221; or that he referred to me as a part-time woman of no importance. To my face. I told him, quoting one of my heroes, <a href="http://articles.latimes.com/2008/sep/21/entertainment/ca-zappa21">Gail Zappa</a>, &#8220;I&#8217;m going to remember you said that.&#8221; And I have.</p>
<p>Anyway &#8211; very long digression, right? &#8211; I became a strategist and an innovations expert.  I&#8217;d become entirely disenchanted with advertising.  What good had it done for culture, for society, for its clients, lately, anyway?</p>
<p>But sitting there for 90 minutes watching Art &amp; Copy, I was reminded that sometimes a well crafted bit of copy and an amazing image can change your life (&#8220;I will be&#8230; naked more&#8221; from a Norwegian Cruise Line ad was the piece that made me want that job as a &#8216;creative&#8217;).  It can motivate you to do something you&#8217;ve always wanted to (a friend at W+K met a couple camping across America who had quit their jobs and packed their tents because of an ad for Nike he&#8217;d written).  It can inspire you to care (&#8220;If you let me play sports&#8230;&#8221;).  Or it can reflect back all that you admire in humanity (&#8220;Here&#8217;s to the crazy ones&#8230;&#8221;).</p>
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<p>Sometimes advertising can aim a bit higher than doing no harm or being merely &#8216;effective.&#8217;  Lots of things that are effective aren&#8217;t any good at all.  But the work and thinkers and makers featured in this documentary are good.  They&#8217;re better than that, they&#8217;re the enemies of good.  They&#8217;re great.</p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Aug 2010 18:21:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Farrah Bostic</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Saw this today at the Pew Research Center for the People &#38; the Press website.  (Yes, sometimes I love to look at bar charts. I find them mysterious &#8211; they mean, after all, nothing, and yet signify so much.) Surely this is not breaking news?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Saw this today at the Pew Research Center for the People &amp; the Press website.  (Yes, sometimes I love to look at bar charts. I find them mysterious &#8211; they mean, after all, nothing, and yet signify so much.)</p>
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<p>Surely this is not breaking news?</p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Aug 2010 22:06:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Farrah Bostic</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Over on Things That Remind Me of Robots I posted something about coming back to watch the X-Files, 10 year later.  I won&#8217;t rehash it here, but it has got me to thinking a lot about the notion of Big Truths. Let me offer a definition:  A Big Truth is something that you have to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Over on <a href="http://www.remindsmeofrobots.com/xfiles-reconsidered/">Things That Remind Me of Robots</a> I posted something about coming back to watch the X-Files, 10 year later.  I won&#8217;t rehash it here, but it has got me to thinking a lot about the notion of Big Truths.</p>
<p>Let me offer a definition:  A Big Truth is something that you have to sacrifice previously held beliefs in order to believe in for the first time.  You have to stop believing one or more things that you have taken for granted: as articles of faith, obvious facts, commonly accepted truths.  Then, you have to start believing something else, something that contradicts, or at the very least replaces, those previously held beliefs.  Regardless, you can&#8217;t believe the Old Truth and the New Truth at the same time.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve generally encountered this sort of problem &#8211; how to tell the Big Truth so people will believe it &#8211; only in pharmaceuticals.  Specifically, I encountered it working with the cervical cancer vaccine.  How could we convince young women and the mothers of girls to get a vaccination against a sexually transmitted virus that causes cancer and genital warts?  There was a lot to unpack in that brand and product proposition.</p>
<p>We did a lot of focus groups talking to young women and moms about cervical cancer, vaccinations, HPV (human papillomavirus, the type of virus that causes cervical cancer), and sexual and reproductive health.  We&#8217;d talk about the vaccine, show them descriptions of the ways the vaccine is administered, the strains of virus it inoculates women against, the causal relationship between the virus and different diseases, efficacy results, safety indications, and so on.  For two hours, everyone would nod their heads and say things like, &#8220;the virus that causes cancer&#8221; and yet, I often felt that somehow we were not getting through.  So I drew this diagram on an easel:</p>
<p><a href="http://s3.prettylittlehead.com/prettylittlehead/files/2010/08/hpvdiagram.jpg"><img class="size-medium wp-image-316 alignleft" style="margin: 3px" title="hpvdiagram" src="http://s3.prettylittlehead.com/prettylittlehead/files/2010/08/hpvdiagram-300x224.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="224" /></a> When we showed people this diagram, suddenly the participants would stop in their tracks.  Despite the fact that this idea was at the heart of a two-hour discussion, and that this is what people told us they understood, it was not until we drew this diagram that they really understood what the idea really meant.</p>
<p>More than that, they were shocked.  Not only had they not really not understood what we were talking about, they found what we were talking about very difficult to believe.  All the way through the conversation they were intrigued by a vaccine for cancer, concerned about the implications, questioning efficacy, and musing about the importance of safeguarding their own or their daughters&#8217; health.  But suddenly their seeming engagement with the topic was subsumed by confusion, dissonance.</p>
<p>And this is where it became clear:  they <em>understood </em>the concept; they just didn&#8217;t <em>believe</em> it.</p>
<p>Why not?  Because it required them to overcome a series of competing beliefs that they already had &#8211; ideas about what causes cancer, fears about vaccines, social norms about sex and sexuality, moral judgments about prevention and treatment.  We were asking them to believe that (A) cervical cancer and genital warts are caused by the same family of viruses, (B) these viruses are passed through sexual, skin-to-skin contact, (C) the vaccine inoculates young women against the strains of the virus that cause 90% of cervical cancer and 70% of genital warts, (D) the vaccine is safe, so that (E) it is a good idea to use the vaccine on young women.</p>
<p>What they already believed was some cocktail of the following:</p>
<ul>
<li>Cancer is hereditary &#8211; if no women in your family have had it, you won&#8217;t get it.</li>
<li>Cancer is caused by environmental or lifestyle factors &#8211; if you live a healthy life, you probably won&#8217;t get it.</li>
<li>Sexually transmitted diseases are transmitted by fluids &#8211; to get a sexually transmitted disease, you have to have vaginal, anal or oral sex.</li>
<li>Young girls &#8211; in particular, pre-pubescent girls &#8211; do not engage in sexual contact.</li>
<li>Condoms prevent all sexually transmitted diseases.</li>
<li>Abstinence <em>definitely </em>prevents all sexually transmitted diseases.</li>
<li>Vaccines are not safe &#8211; they cause autism, longer term illnesses, the illnesses they seek to prevent, flulike symptoms, or simply don&#8217;t work.</li>
<li>You shouldn&#8217;t sexualize young girls by subjecting them to treatment or prevention of sexually transmitted diseases, much less discussing these treatments with them.</li>
<li>Only promiscuous girls get sexually transmitted diseases.</li>
<li>People who get sexually transmitted diseases deserve it.</li>
<li>Sexually transmitted diseases, like genital warts, are treatable.</li>
<li>Cervical cancer is treatable if you get regular cervical screenings.</li>
<li>The risks of the vaccine outweigh the likelihood that a woman will get cervical cancer.</li>
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<p>Most of what people already believed was either inaccurate, incomplete, or flat-out untrue. People&#8217;s ideas and attitudes towards sex and sexuality colored the rest of their beliefs about both the disease and its prevention.  We were asking them to abandon all of these previously held beliefs, forget the misinformation, delete their incorrect inferences, and believe something new.  We had science on our side, we had common sense on our side, but the one thing that worked the most effectively surprised us: fear.</p>
<p>The people most prone to abandon their previously held beliefs were people with intimate experience with, or a deep-seated fear of, cancer.  If you are terrified of cancer &#8211; and if you&#8217;ve ever known someone who has been treated for cancer, you understand this terror &#8211; then you are willing to abandon these beliefs because the new, Big Truth, transforms your understanding of cancer: from a terrifying, mysterious, deadly or disfiguring disease into something preventable, something you can spare yourself or your loved ones.  In other words, our Big Truth inspired a hope and sense of possibility, even relief, that abated their fear.  It was as if, for those who were scared, we&#8217;d turned on the light and shown them that the monster under the bed was just an errant stuffed animal.</p>
<p>But if you weren&#8217;t afraid of cancer &#8211; if you considered it a remote possibility &#8211; then the Big Truth was at least confusing, and worse, confounding, contradicting too many things you already believed.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not often that we encounter brands and categories that trade in the Big Truth, or feel they have to, or have an opportunity to do so.  And who would blame them, when they can simply tap into what people already believe in and leverage these beliefs, even if they are based on falsehoods, to sell products or brands?</p>
<p>But I recently encountered this idea again in the context of electric vehicles.  People &#8216;get&#8217; EVs.  But they do not have personal experience with them, generally, so their understanding is necessarily abstract.  As a result, the people I spoke to were shocked again &#8211; to discover that there would be upwards of a dozen different makes and models of EVs by 2013, that tens of thousands of EV charging stations will be installed throughout the country by the end of this summer, that plug-in hybrids and plug-in electric vehicles are coming, and so is the infrastructure for them.  In their minds, the abstract notion of widespread adoption of electric vehicles was 5 or more years away. Embedded in their abstractions were prejudices about EVs:  that they are small, lack power, don&#8217;t drive at highway speeds, aren&#8217;t safe, aren&#8217;t reliable, can&#8217;t go far enough, are expensive to maintain, aren&#8217;t fully proven as a technology.  Some have gone to another extreme &#8211; that all <em>sources</em> of electricity are suspect, produce emissions, cost resources, and so on.  These previously held beliefs hindered the depth of our discussions &#8211; too many hypotheticals were required to have a robust conversation.</p>
<p>Yet &#8211; an interesting belief was also embedded in our conversation about cars and energy.  Most of the people I spoke to believe that what kinds of cars get made, what kinds of energy sources we use, what energy costs, and what brands are available in this market are elements that are simply not up to them. The fact of this technology is fascinating, inspiring, concerning, but not within their power to control.  What brand of charging station will I plug my EV into?  Whichever one is installed on the street, in the parking structure, at my workplace, sold with my car.  What kind of EV will I drive?  Whichever kind I can afford, or like the looks of, or that my wife likes.  People were confused, surprised, but not stressed out in the slightest.  Electric cars are coming, resistance is futile, let it wash over you, and do what you will.</p>
<p>The cancer vaccine, on the other hand, was entirely up to them.  It wasn&#8217;t mandatory yet, it was the responsibility of a parent, or of an adult.  So when you combine believing in a Big Truth with placing the enactment of that belief solely within the responsibility of an individual &#8211; when believing in a Big Truth requires you to be responsible for the results of that belief, then people resist.  They resist hard.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not sure what the answer is, and suspect that advertising or marketing are ill-equipped to take people very far in the process of overcoming previously held beliefs and adopting a new Big Truth.  But it is an interesting problem and one I suspect we will continue to face as scientific discoveries become products in a world where brands and communications are everything.</p>
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		<title>Dear Guy I Was Dating&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Jul 2010 01:46:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Farrah Bostic</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><div class='posterous_autopost'>Hi! How&#8217;ve you been? Actually, you know, I honestly don&#8217;t care that much besides, I feel pretty caught up on what&#8217;s happening in your life vis-a-vis twitter and just the usual idle gossip at the internet nerd bars, and then there was that time I actually ran into you at an Internet nerd bar, so I think we can just consider each other caught up, right? You told me how your business is doing using some completely abstract (at least to me) employee/growth metric, and I generally evaded all questions about my professional status. It reminded me of when we were together, actually. Good times.
<p /> So, hey, look, I just saw Inception and it sort of made me think of you. Actually it made me think of this thing I experienced when we were first getting together. You might not really remember this story, because you were asleep at the time. But you probably remember that, as usual, I was awake before you, and that I kept getting in and out of bed for some reason, and that this would turn out to be pretty normal. Except, and you couldn&#8217;t know this because I basically never told you what was going on in my life or my head, that morning was very different from all the subsequent mornings.
<p /> I woke up that morning not because the alarm went off or I was stressed out about something, which was usually why I was awake before you, that and the mini blinds in your bedroom do not keep out any sunlight, so it&#8217;s pretty much up with the dawn at your place, but anyway.
<p /> What woke me up was a woman&#8217;s voice. She had a funny almost-accent, one of those inflections and styles of speech you hear out west sometimes, basically signifying she wasn&#8217;t very educated, but was pretty chatty, and full of &#8220;character&#8221;. Yes, local color, she was, though where she was talking from I couldn&#8217;t place at first.
<p /> She was talking about this old man who&#8217;d come into her store and bought a t-shirt. She wasn&#8217;t really talking to me, but I could tell she wouldn&#8217;t shut about the old man until I got up and wrote down everything she was saying. So after several painful attempts to silence this woman, I gave up. I got out of the bed and went to the other room and I wrote it all down. She could have gone on for pages the way she described every detail of the old guy. I cut her off at two, I needed to figure out what to do about you, asleep there in my bed, and my writing class that was a few hours away, and my hangover. Two pages would just have to do.
<p /> Later she started talking again, and I realized what was happening. A story was developing, and she was the pushiest character and she wouldn&#8217;t shut up, not until I did something with what she was saying. I didn&#8217;t tell you this, but that woman in my head, chattering away so early that February morning, begat several other characters, a town, and a plot. It became a short story, and my writing classmates and my friend that doesn&#8217;t offer praise for short fiction, all say it should be a novel. So that is one thing I&#8217;ve been doing lately, procrastinating writing a novel.
<p /> So what&#8217;s this all got to do with Inception? Well, it&#8217;s simple: that morning I had a real idea, and it&#8217;s been growing, and it can be pretty consuming, and the thing about an idea is that having one can be a lot like going insane.
<p /> Cheers, Farrah
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jul 2010 16:52:54 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><div class='posterous_autopost'>Just saw this entry over at Laughing Squid: <a href="http://laughingsquid.com/13-year-old-jimmy-page-on-the-bbc-show-all-your-own-in-1957/">13 Year-Old Jimmy Page on the BBC Show All Your Own in 1957</a>.
<p /> Go to this link, watch the YouTube video (a clip from this performance made it into the documentary It Might Get Loud). You&#8217;ll notice a few things about young Jimmy Page and his skiffle buddies:
<p /> 1. Most of them want to be scientific researchers. Jimmy wants to research germs and cancer. The drummer wants to research bigger biological entities not to make anything, he emphatically explains, but simply for discovery&#8217;s own sake and because sharing what he discovers can be used by others to make new things. Wonderful. Then the other guitar player says he wants to be a research physicist and study electricity because it is &#8220;the lifeblood of the country now.&#8221; It&#8217;s amazing to see how inspired by technology, science and the simple concepts of discovery and understanding these kids were.
<p /> 2. The bass player and the guitar player build things! The bass player made his own bass, and wanted to make a bigger and better one after all he&#8217;d learned in the process of making the one we see him play. The guitar player is making a balalaika. Goodness. Meanwhile young James Page is taking lessons and playing serious, non-skiffle music, and the drummer doesn&#8217;t smile while he plays &#8230; Because they all take the craft of musicianship incredibly seriously and recognize and embrace the complexity of it.
<p /> 3. Watch Jimmy Page boogie down. He&#8217;s not just performing, he&#8217;s feeling it all. Truly beautiful stuff.
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		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Jul 2010 04:52:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Tonight I momentarily considered setting up on formspring.me, then realized hearsay is so much, well, funner. Also, there&#8217;s this: ZOMG what am I doing?? (yikes @urlesque!) Find out here Posted by Farrah Bostic via email from prettylittlehead]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><div class='posterous_autopost'>Tonight I momentarily considered setting up on <a href="http://www.formspring.me">formspring.me</a>, then realized hearsay is so much, well, funner.
<p /> Also, there&#8217;s this:
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<p>ZOMG what am I doing?? (yikes @urlesque!)
<p /> Find out <a href="http://www.urlesque.com/2010/06/24/favorite-meme-internet-celebs/">here</a></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve already said this, but I like to repeat myself: &#160;the joy I experience hating the New York Times every weekend is immeasurable. &#160;This past weekend was no exception. I realize that sometimes what I&#8217;m hating are the people quoted in articles; that sometimes I&#8217;m hating that the front page has no relationship to the [...]]]></description>
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<div>I&#8217;ve already said this, but I like to repeat myself: &nbsp;the joy I experience hating the New York Times every weekend is immeasurable. &nbsp;This past weekend was no exception.</div>
<p />
<div>I realize that sometimes what I&#8217;m hating are the people quoted in articles; that sometimes I&#8217;m hating that the front page has no relationship to the Week in Review; that it can not be read as a single text. &nbsp;And I realize these things are not worth hating on the Times, and that it could be seen as a misapprehension of what a newspaper is.</div>
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<div>I also realize that in an error of embedded links, I find assertions without evidence to be absolutely maddening. &nbsp;I read the Times and in my head, slam my hand down on the table and rise to object, &#8220;Assuming facts not in evidence!&#8221; &nbsp;Without the footnotes of embedded links, the reference to facts reported or otherwise documented elsewhere, I question the veracity of the entire piece, and frankly, question the professionalism of both the reporter and the editor. &nbsp;Mostly I blame the editors. &nbsp;They should know better.</div>
<p />
<div>What I&#8217;m saying is, if I can read your piece and think, &#8220;Says who?&#8221; you haven&#8217;t done all the work.</div>
<p />
<div>The Sunday Styles section is not really the place to go for hard-nosed reporting. &nbsp;But a piece entitled&nbsp;<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/27/fashion/27StudiedEmpathy.html">&#8220;From Students, Less Kindness for Strangers</a>&#8221; stood out. &nbsp;This was the piece that succeeded in setting me on a rant over brunch in Cobble Hill. &nbsp;You, dear reader, get to read the product of this rant.</div>
<p />
<div>The focus of the piece is the results of survey research, in which college students respond to attitudinal statements like:</div>
<p />
<div>
<blockquote><span style="line-height: 22px">“I often have tender, concerned feelings for people less fortunate than me” and “I sometimes try to understand my friends better by imagining how things look from their perspective.”</span></p></blockquote>
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<p />
<div>One assumes that these statements are not set up solely for &#8216;agree/disagree&#8217; responses; I would guess that these are scaled responses (strongly agree, somewhat agree, etc.). &nbsp;These statements are used to construct a measurement of empathy. &nbsp;The results are in: empathy is in precipitous decline. &nbsp;Fair enough &#8211; seems likely, and is easy enough to witness, especially among those in or just out of college. &nbsp;What it doesn&#8217;t address is whether empathy is a state of being or a skill set acquired with experience. &nbsp;The piece suggests that this is How People Are now, or at least doesn&#8217;t stop the reader from concluding that empathy is going the way of the Dodo.</div>
<p />
<div>The research is not longitudinal in the sense that it follows the sample as they mature and move through life. &nbsp;It doesn&#8217;t ask <b>these</b>&nbsp;college students <b>these</b>&nbsp;questions over the course of their lifetimes. &nbsp;It asks <b>these</b>&nbsp;questions of a new sample of college students each year. So we don&#8217;t know whether they ever learn empathy or become more empathetic. &nbsp;And the article doesn&#8217;t address that at all.</div>
<p />
<div>It also doesn&#8217;t dig much into <b>why</b>&nbsp;college kids&#8217; empathy is declining though it flippantly offers an explanation that we can all nod our heads at &#8211; and here, then, is the&nbsp;passage that troubled me most:</div>
<p />
<p />
<blockquote>
<div>&#8220;Previous studies have documented an increasing narcissism among college students since the late 1980s. And Americans in general perceive decreases in other people&#8217;s kindness and helpfulness.</div>
<div><span class="Apple-tab-span">	</span>&#8220;What happened?&#8230; [T]he authors speculate a millenial mixture of video games, social media, reality TV and hyper-competition have left young people self-involved, shallow and unfettered in their individualism and ambition.</div>
<div><span class="Apple-tab-span">	</span>&#8220;The implications are hardly superficial. &nbsp;Low empathy is associated with criminal behavior, violence, sexual offenses, aggression when drunk and other antisocial behavior&#8230;&#8221;</div>
</blockquote>
<p>
<div>Ah yes, the &#8220;that infernal rock and roll music&#8221; doctrine of Why These Kids Today Are Doomed. Pardon, for a moment my lawyer&#8217;s mind here:</div>
<p />
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<li>The author of this piece does not establish&nbsp;<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissism">narcissism</a>&nbsp;as the opposite of&nbsp;<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy">empathy</a>. &nbsp;Do these studies measure&nbsp;<a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/narcissism">narcissism</a>&nbsp;or empathy? &nbsp;Lack of concern for some others does not necessarily equal overweening self-regard, manipulativeness, or an absolute inability to care for anyone else.</li>
<li>The perception of kindness and helpfulness suggests a basis in behavior, not attitudes. &nbsp;These are learned or taught behaviors; picking up litter, holding the door, offering to help someone carry something, offering to help in general &#8211; these are socialized behaviors. &nbsp;I could feel terribly sorry for that lady who missed the curb and fell down in front of my gym, and I could help her up. &nbsp;One does not necessarily follow from the other; and the action is not actually dependent upon the emotion. &nbsp;Perhaps I want to be admired (the goal of the narcissist) so I swoop in as the knight in shining armor. &nbsp;I don&#8217;t have to care at all about this woman, take her perspective or feel her pain. &nbsp;I just have to look good helping her up. &nbsp;Alternatively, I can see her fall and not help her because I am embarrassed for her and think she will not want or accept my help because this will only compound her indignity. &nbsp;I act this way because I do not know how to offer to help her up &#8211; that solidarity in the recovery overwhelms the pity and embarrassment of the fall. [Personal aside, a woman with a walker fell the other morning in front of my gym. &nbsp;I asked if she was okay, and offered to help her up; seeing me make this offer, two men swooped in to help her up. &nbsp;Kindness and helpfulness are contagious.]</li>
<li>And the phrase &#8220;is associated&#8221; &#8211; let&#8217;s try to remember, shall we, that correlation is not causation. &nbsp;Maybe it doesn&#8217;t matter but for the purposes of this article the author should be more cautious in suggesting that selfish 19 year olds (really, is there any other kind?) are going to go on a crime spree.</li>
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<div>Okay then, now let&#8217;s move on to my cultural observer&#8217;s mind:</div>
<p />
<div><b>Video games</b></div>
<p />
<div>It&#8217;s incredibly easy to blame video games &#8211; when most people picture video games, they imagine guns, babes, zombies, bombs. &nbsp;They picture First Person Shooters and games like&nbsp;<a href="http://www.rockstargames.com/IV/">Grand Theft Auto</a>&nbsp;that &#8211; they feel &#8211; elevate the criminal. &nbsp;But these are not the only video games that are made or played. &nbsp;I remember watching my brother play&nbsp;<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/GoldenEye_007">Goldeneye</a>&nbsp;and then play&nbsp;<a href="http://www.zelda.com/">The Legend of Zelda</a>. &nbsp;Goldeneye would leave him stressed out and aggressive &#8211; he was working very hard to kill or be killed. &nbsp;Zelda would calm him &#8211; he was trying to solve puzzles and save the Princess. &nbsp;Goldeneye is a FPS; Zelda is third person &#8211; we observe Link rather than embodying him. The point is &#8211; not all games are the same. &nbsp;The narratives are different, the goals vary, our perspective taking and presence varies within the game. &nbsp;</div>
<p />
<div>There is not nearly enough research on the&nbsp;<a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/death-love-sex-magic/201006/the-social-benefits-video-gaming">positive effects of prosocial or problem-solving or casual games</a>, but there is enough to suggest that positive games can have positive influence on empathy. &nbsp;Even within FPS games with female heroines (regardless of their hypersexualized forms), there is some thinking to suggest that male players of female avatars experience empathy for their character; borrowing from the&nbsp;<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Final_girl">Final Girl</a>&nbsp;theory of slasher movies,&nbsp;<a href="http://www.wired.com/gaming/gamingreviews/commentary/games/2006/04/70712">some have argued</a>&nbsp;that players submit to and feel care, sympathy and yes, empathy for their female shooter (this theory is troublesome insofar as we think masochism is somehow &#8216;better&#8217; than sadism, but hey &#8211; all I&#8217;m saying is there are many views about the social benefits of gaming).</div>
<p />
<div><b>Social media</b></div>
<p />
<div>How social media &#8211; I mean, it&#8217;s called &#8216;social&#8217; for a reason &#8211; would diminish empathy isn&#8217;t argued here. &nbsp;It&#8217;s simply laid out as a likely culprit. &nbsp;But streaming around the internets the other day was&nbsp;<a href="http://www.fastcompany.com/magazine/147/doctor-love.html?page=0,2">a refutation</a>&nbsp;of the implied notion that social media is somehow a contradiction in terms &#8211; social networks, and the social media platforms that support communication amongst these social networks, actually increase our&nbsp;<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oxytocin#Actions">oxytocin</a>&nbsp;levels. Oxytocin is the hormone nursing mothers release during breast feeding; it fosters social recognition, bonding, generosity and trust (while there is a relationship to sexual arousal as well, it&#8217;s less the &#8216;pleasure chemical&#8217; and more the &#8216;nurturing chemical&#8217;). &nbsp;According to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.maryroach.net/bonk.html">Mary Roach&#8217;s book, Bonk</a>, this is a chemical we release when we pet our dogs; it is also a chemical that dogs release when they&#8217;re being petted &#8211; an apt symbol of the mutually beneficial relationship.</div>
<p />
<div>So what do they mean when they toss social media out there? &nbsp;Do they mean&nbsp;<a href="http://www.fastcompany.com/1585213/sexting-cyberbullying-are-over-the-line-say-users-of-mtvs-online-morality-meter">sexting and cyber-bullying</a>? While this is prevalent and clearly has dangerous effects, it is not the sum total of social behavior online. &nbsp;In fact, one might argue that cyber-bullies are using social platforms for antisocial behavior &#8211; and again, there should be some care taken to distinguish between &#8216;social media&#8217; and the messages transmitted within it. &nbsp;</div>
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<div>Oh also, simple rule of thumb:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.slideshare.net/farisyakob/be-nice-or-leave">Be nice, or leave</a>&nbsp;(hat tip:&nbsp;<a href="http://farisyakob.typepad.com/blog/">Faris Yakob</a>). &nbsp;And if you are looking for resources to combat sexting and cyber-bullying, look no further than&nbsp;<a href="http://www.athinline.org/">MTV&#8217;s A Thin Line</a>&nbsp;campaign (hat tip:&nbsp;<a href="http://twitter.com/jasonrzepka">Jason Rzepka</a>, who I saw present this at&nbsp;<a href="http://thepromiseny.com/live/">the #promise event at IWNY)</a>.</div>
<p />
<div><b>Reality TV</b></div>
<p />
<div>Now this one actually may have some merit. &nbsp;&#8221;<a href="http://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/getarticle.cfm?id=1742">Humilitainment</a>&#8221; is a key motivator of reality TV viewers &#8211; we aren&#8217;t voyeurs, we want to feel we are superior to the people on the screen, and we want to see our revenge fantasies played out &#8211; in other words, we seek self-importance and vindication. I watch a lot of crap television and love a horror movie, but I have never been able to handle reality TV &#8211; it is completely ridiculous, and yet it is too true to life, the worst bits, the parts of high school you&#8217;d sooner forget. &nbsp;It&#8217;s not nice. &nbsp;I&#8217;d rather shoot zombies.</div>
<p />
<div>But I think this goes towards something more significant in the cultivation of empathy: experience. Let&#8217;s be clear, the respondents in this study are kids <b>in</b>&nbsp;college, so there is a certain measure of privilege baked in, based merely on the measure that they are able to afford college (or qualify for loans or scholarships) and that there was a social expectation of higher education in their family or community. &nbsp;So, how many have personally experienced embarrassment, failure, loss or injury? &nbsp;How many have benefited from charity, participated in good works for reasons other than resume building, or come to someone&#8217;s rescue or aid? &nbsp;Even if they have had these experiences, do they have the proper context for them? &nbsp;Has anyone impressed upon them the need for gratitude, or are they immersed in the sense of entitlement?</div>
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<div><b>Hyper competition</b></div>
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<div>This one, I confess, made me laugh. &nbsp;Yes, I laughed &#8211; the cold, hard, bitter laugh of someone who actually, you know, competed for stuff. &nbsp;I absolutely must relate an anecdote: &nbsp;A few years ago, I led an internal workshop teaching my colleagues about how advertising agencies in the US evolved, how they work, and how they make ads. &nbsp;Towards the end of the workshop series, I challenged the participants to learn how ads get made first-hand &#8211; I had them form teams, write creative briefs and develop ads. &nbsp;For the final session, we would have a party, and a few of the partners would select the winning campaign. &nbsp;In the end, we chose the winner &#8211; they had a smart creative idea, and an impressive media idea. We gave them a trophy &#8211; the rear end of a horse. &nbsp;The award, we thought, would rotate year to year as we repeated the workshop for new folks and evolved it to better our approach to testing ads.</div>
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<div>None of the participants had the guts to complain directly to me, but they did complain to their managers: &nbsp;they thought it was unfair to have a winner. &nbsp;Hadn&#8217;t they all participated? &nbsp;Hadn&#8217;t they all completed the assignment? &nbsp;Weren&#8217;t they all smart and creative?</div>
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<div>I was, I&#8217;ll admit, stunned. &nbsp;All those things were true, but this was a contest! A contest, by definition, has a winner and a loser. But we never did hold that workshop again.</div>
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<div>So, where, I have to wonder, does this &#8220;hyper competition&#8221; come from? &nbsp;Kids (and more accurately, their parents)&nbsp;<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/02/18/education/18college.html">complain</a>, even&nbsp;<a href="http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=8278150">sue</a>, when they make poor marks.&nbsp;<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/22/business/22law.html?scp=1&amp;sq=law%20school&amp;st=cse">Schools game the system</a>&nbsp;to make their grads look better or smarter. &nbsp;In fact, in the same Sunday Times that inspired this absurd rant on empathy, there was<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/27/education/27valedictorians.html"> an article about a high school declining to select a single valedictorian</a>, instead anointing 30 kids with the title. &nbsp;The hidden theme here was that choosing among them would be hard; one assumes that school administrators also wanted to skip the parental and student outrage over making such a choice. &nbsp;But the most ridiculous, naive comment from the piece was this:</div>
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<blockquote>&#8220;When did we start saying that we should limit the honors so only one person gets the glory?&#8221; asked Joe Prisinzano, the Jericho principal.</p></blockquote>
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<div>Um, I think the answer to that is ALWAYS. When you do something as a team, you can share glory as a team. Everybody on the winning team gets a ring at the Super Bowl, sure. &nbsp;But they also anoint a MVP &#8211; most valuable player. &nbsp;The team was good, sure, but this guy &#8211; this guy was amazing.</div>
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<div>In this context, let&#8217;s remember: your high school transcript is yours. &nbsp;It reflects the work you did &#8211; your homework, your test scores, your participation, your activities, your achievement. &nbsp;Sometimes you get screwed when your team-mates on a particular assignment don&#8217;t pull their weight; sometimes you get to coast because someone else is doing all the work. &nbsp;But honors are supposed to be about getting the glory &#8211; that&#8217;s why they are called honors. &nbsp;No one else can take that test for you, or get that SAT score&#8230; When you get a ribbon for participation, and are shielded from the revelation that because you didn&#8217;t &#8220;win&#8221; you therefore &#8220;lost&#8221;, it is hard to be empathetic towards someone who has failed. &nbsp;You don&#8217;t know what it&#8217;s like, you can&#8217;t take their perspective.</div>
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<div>A personal anecdote: &nbsp;I lost a spelling bee once. &nbsp;The word was &#8220;beautician.&#8221; &nbsp;I was so confident I knew how to spell it that I sped through it and dropped a letter. I lost. I was very sad about it, at 8 years old. My mother was sympathetic, my father brought home balloons and a pin that read, &#8220;I&#8217;m entitled to be grumpy.&#8221; &nbsp;That was where the entitlement ended &#8211; I wasn&#8217;t entitled to a conciliatory trophy, or a rematch, only entitled to be disappointed that I hadn&#8217;t won. &nbsp;This is where empathy begins, and perhaps gives us a signal about where the lack of empathy comes from.</div>
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<div>L&#8217;ENVOI&nbsp;</div>
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<div>I used to work for an agency that believes in&nbsp;<a href="http://russelldavies.typepad.com/planning/2006/07/7_things_i_lear_1.html">failing harder</a>. &nbsp;In fact, the future of technology, media, our culture, is about a fearlessness towards the blank page and the rough draft, of prototyping. &nbsp;Fearlessness comes from the acceptance that you might fail, but the belief that you might succeed, and the willingness to take the risk.&nbsp;</div>
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<div>There is an adage in innovation &#8211; &#8220;<a href="http://konigi.com/notebook/inside-ideo">Fail often to succeed sooner.</a>&#8221; &nbsp;Not only do we have less empathy without experience &#8211; and experiencing failure &#8211; but we have fewer good, breakthrough, useful ideas. &nbsp;We can&#8217;t totally blame kids for this &#8211; they&#8217;ll gain experience eventually. &nbsp;But we should be looking for ways to teach our kids to fail harder, fail better, to take risks and learn from them, and to take perspectives that are not their own.</div>
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<div>I think what I just described is called &#8220;learning.&#8221;</div>
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<div>Now please, NYT and University of Michigan academics &#8211; do better next time.</div>
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